A good sign for any chess player is if they respect their opponents. There are some who might regard the opposition as nothing more than obstacles to one’s competitive glory, but there’s an altogether different way of looking at this.
If chess is primarily a means of personal development then the opponent must be a vital part of the process. A good opponent raises the bar and drives us to search for greater insight into both the game and ourselves.
When this viewpoint is shared by both players then chess becomes a wonderful thing. It’s also not too bad for those pursuing personal development even if their opponents want to exterminate them en route to a dinner for their ego. But where it becomes destructive and empty is when the winning and personal glory leaves room for nothing else.
Here anyway is a video clip on the matter which shows that chess is not the only field in which this is an issue: